写给男朋友的分手信(精选10篇)
宝贝:
也许这是我最后一次这样叫你了,请你耐心的把信看完!也许我们以后不会再见面了!
我们在一起有十个月了,我以为我会和你走下去,我不在乎别的什么,只要你爱我,这些就足够了,但是事情并没有我们想象的那么完美。还记得刚和你在一起的时候你对我的态度,每次你离开的时候都是舍不得,走不利。可现在呢,每次离开的时候就是赶紧走,赶紧下车,这些态度的转变我一时有些适应不了!
我和你在一起以后,我的心情好坏都是和你连着,见不到你的时候我心神不定,焦急,心不在焉,但是但是只要接到你的一个电话,我都会忘乎所以,笑都是情不自禁。朋友都说我,说我怎么就这么离不开你,说实话,从开始和你在一起我就没有想过我自己会这样,我从来就没有这样爱一个人,我不知道我们这样算不算爱!!你可以任何时间,任何地点,只要你开心你就可以给我打电话,哪怕是在深夜,我不能不接你的电话,不能晚接你的电话,更不能关机,否则等待我的只有挨骂!可是我呢?我不可以在早上和深夜打电话给你,我不可以不管时间地点的打电话给你,你可以不接我的电话,你可以烦的时候关机,而我对此却无能为力,而这种无能为力只能转变成无奈、当无奈都变成习惯的时候那就只有失望了,,我不奢求你能够天天见我,我只要你的关心,呵护,哪怕每天只有一个电话,当然不是一打电话就骂我,呵呵,而是对我有一点点的关心啊。
你见我时都是在骂我挖苦我,这些我也都习惯了,我能怎样?反抗吗?每次都说什么我去偷吃了,找男人了,更恶毒的你竟然说我出去卖了,说我没有能力挣钱,是,我承认,我没有你那种本事,但是我出去带团挣得都是干干净净的钱,我不愿意总花你的钱,我想要独立,想要让你看得起我,向你证明我不是你想的那种寄生虫!你问我哪里来的钱,还说我出去陪人睡挣得,我无语,我的钱是自己出团辛辛苦苦来的,没有你想的啊么肮脏,你这样是在侮辱我,太伤我自尊了,但我无力去和你争论什么,我也争不过你,随你怎么去想吧,我实在只是想和你平平淡淡的过日子啊,但是你说你是有家有口的人,这无疑也是在警告我,不要离你太近,其实你根本不理解我有多爱你,多离不开你,我怎么可能出去找别人呢,还说我偷吃一口是一口,我瘾还没有那么大,我不是她们那种女人,不是见到男人就控制不了的人,我以为我们在一起那么长的时间,你应该对我了解,对我放心的,没有想到我是这样不让人放心的女人啊。我以为我跟你以后,不会再难过,在担心,我甚至都放弃结婚放弃一切的一辈子和你在一起,我愿意在你身后,愿意为你付出一切,我不要你为我做什么,不要你抛弃家庭等等,我只要你的爱,我想这不过分,但是,我太天真了,天真的去相信一切,去相信你爱我!
其实我每天都在自欺欺人,当我听你说你要过来找我的时候,我都知道,你是在敷衍我,但我还是心情好的就不得了。明知道你来我这里的机率几乎是零时,我还是自我安慰,你会来的,至少你不来你还会打电话给我,我想见你的时候并不是想怎么样,只是单纯的想你,但你说你很累什么的,其实你想多了,我就是想你,想靠着你和你说说话,就是这么简单,但是这么简单的事对我来说都是奢望啊,我想我的要求还不算过分吧,但是你能给我的感情太少太少了,我知道这样不好,也知道你给我的爱只能那么少,但是我就像是一个乞丐一样,只有不停的要,要到你想要逃跑,我不需要你给我承诺,只要你能够真真切切的爱我一场,就算你认为这是我虚荣也好,贪心也好,但是女人对爱都是自私的,没有人对待爱情是博爱!
我们在一起那么久了,但是我还是不了解你,连你的脾气我都猜不透。不知道你什么时候会生我的气,不知道什么时候开心,,看到你打来电话我都紧张,紧张的是怕你又无缘无故的骂我,试问什么样的人会有事没事的时候就骂自己的女朋友,而且口不择言的骂得那么难听,我对你的骂都快产生抗体了,习惯,又是习惯,我已经养成了被你骂的习惯了,这是多么可怕的事情啊!
现在我要说的则是那天我们到西安的事情了,我就是不明白了,,我知道,,你是不会单独带我去玩的,不是么?而且要命的是你要的是一个大床间啊,我进了房间就傻了,我知道这一定是你安排的,但是我又能说什么能?本来以为你这一切都是和我在开玩笑,但是我错了,你是认真的,而且很投入,比和我在一起还要投入的,我伤心,我欲哭无泪,而你则说,你是爱我的!回家以后,那个晚上,当我在酒店楼下看见那张熟悉的车的时候,愤怒,伤心,绝望!当我在前台问了你的房间号时,当我站在你们面前时,我哭了,哭自己,我是以什么角色,什么身份站在这里呢?可笑,可笑的处境,当你和那个女孩说我是你老婆的时候,我真难过,她说我误会了,你们没有什么。她只是喝多了,在这里休息。我不想说什么,因为我没有资格去说,我知道自己什么身份。
今天,电话里你又骂了我,原因是我去别的酒吧喝酒回家晚了,又说我出去和男人怎样了,我不想再那么顺从你了,我没有做什么就是没有做什么,何必要欺骗你呢,以昨天的情况我是可以不让你知道我在外面的,我没有必要欺骗你。我的坦诚带给我的只是谩骂,忍无可忍时,则无需再忍!
你经常跟我说,不能在外面乱,可是我又何尝在外面呆过呢?每天夜幕降临的时候,我都会准时的出现在你的慢摇吧里,即使你不在,我都感觉到你的气息,感觉到你的身影,我几乎不去别的地方玩,原因很简单,我爱你,爱你的一切,除了你的钱,我讨厌你在我面前展示你雄厚的资金,展示你的家业,讨厌你说我和你在一起将会衣食无忧的生活一辈子。我要的很简单,我甚至希望你变成穷光蛋,那样,你就可以守在我的身边,让我来爱你,关心你。朋友说我很傻,是的,我傻,但是钱给我带不来快乐,而我要的恰恰是钱买不来的!
我们其实是相互的不信任,也许我们所看见的不一定是真实的,我宁愿相信你也许只是因为害怕伤害我,不是有意要骗我的,如果真的爱我会舍得吗?但是现在事情的真实性我不想再说了,已经没有任何意义了,我不想再做你的女人,不想再过这种日子,我需要正常的生活,需要像一个正常人一样,而不是像病人一样的垂死挣扎的守护这份频临死亡的爱情。
说到这里我已经泪流满面,虽然很爱你,但是必须要放弃,我不能再虚度我的青春了,毕竟我已不再年轻,我走了,只有离开,逃避才是最好的拒绝,因为我怕再见到你会控制不了自己的感情。祝你幸福!!!
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你深深伤了我的心
在七个月前..我仍是你的情人..但在七个月后
我曾了你的陌生人...心有点痛..
总以为自己七个月了..不会再让你干扰我..
我的心仍然很平静得
但是..情形却不是如此...
看到你却深深的心痛...怪你..要和我做朋友..
你自己却在躲我..你可知道...在分手时..你早己深深伤了我
只是因..我爱你比爱自己还多..才一直想碰钉子和你联络
你一次一次..愈来愈冷的口气...
如今都分手七个月了..我想..我以后会采被动的角色...
我不想再让你有机会再伤害我...
..明明..是你的心..住了另一个人..却..说是我的不是..我想
认了...遇上你..上辈子欠你得...
该做得我做了..该说得我说了...算了..你我之间..也许..没有必要再多说什么了
平静
我走了也许真的走了
昨晚站在车站前你知道我多不舍松开手吗
当然你不会知道也不会懂
尽管知道你已经太晚回家了
却仍是那么的不舍
从你口中脱出一声声的"byebye"
就像利刃一般刺入我的心中
知道你在等我说掰掰但你知道吗
好难真的好难我说不出口
只好点了点头让你最后的背影消失在我的眼前
我走了也许真的走了
我好想大哭一场我没有真的没有
可是为什么现在我的泪水却停不下来
让我最后一次说我爱你真的爱你
虽然我从来没听你这么跟我说过
寻找大哥哥的娃
谢谢你的爱
My dear:
This is a dear John letter.
Not all break up, because love disappear or transfer.
Dear, just two days ago, you break up with me again, just because I didn't hear what you repeated twice.
Do you know? Whenever you say break up, what I see in your eyes is not for the life tired, more is not devoid of light of hope, on the contrary, I see a desire, a few times in your eyes even beaming thrilled and excited. I know that you are looking forward to me for losing your burst of sorrow and hysteria, rubbing their hands inside of you to wait for the arrival of this moment, to let you believe how much I love you.
So, break up, for you, is not even boring trick, but in between you and me will regularly on love drama, is a make you enjoy and satisfy feeling feast.
Dear, I'm really tired, for you endless questions and test, to give you endless love problem.
Every time when I face difficult or tired, and you will say I already do not love you, or I am old, have love.
I am willing to give everything for you, but not in this way.
I love you. But we have different understanding of love and pursuit. You worship that agitate paranoid love, so always hopes to love go twists and turns, go is blurred, with a series of earth-shattering story, with overdraw the life consumption and pay, with incomparable sadness to prove that love, interprets the love.
But for me, love is not the case. Love is not between life and death, not emotion and reason of the problem, not for a person to give up all other valuable thing in the world the courage of life. Love, is just a simple idea, is want to and a person together, is a little caring to separate a few days later, is to think of each other heart light faint scent, that's all.
Yes, love should be a kind of additive, it should be because it give everything, and should not deprive the rest of the life for it's right to exist. Love, should be a kind, generous, good luck. And should not be harsh, domineering, bad luck.
A small example. And I together of the time, you always want to do something, and I see a movie together, or play games, if I want to a person to do something, you will not happy. But I think, love, not to let each other to become the leading role of you all the time in your life, instead, is to let each other become indispensable background - not in their life together what to do, but as long as there is you, I can be at ease to do anything more.
I think love is light, transparent and simple.
And what do you think of love, is heavy, obscure and complex.
I never want to test you, because I trust you, but because I think love is a common thing in the world, even if you make a mistake, or at some point temperature down to my love, I can accept it. Because I want to understand love of the imperfect.
But you always alert, and even set up artificial barriers to test me, sometimes I think love beyond the love you love me, you just want to put my refined into a perfect love story.
Dear, I'm sorry, in you mentioned several times after break up, this time it's my turn to break up. I am not anger, nor retaliation. I just love is minimalist, the perfection of socialist don't match with you. I am not old, is not love, in fact I than you more eager to love, so I need more like oasis crystal clear love to moisten my throat and heart quickly, and you need is a fruit juice, need that kind of sweet greasy, gorgeous drinks to decorate your life, unfortunately, fruit juice for me, already not quench thirst.
Dear, I want to insipid love, don't need a moment rink hijinks tao lung, teary-eyed. Maybe some love like a storm, and some love is like the drizzle, if can only choose a, I would choose the latter, because the storm will destroy everything, after a storm, everything will disappear. And rain can run things in silence, this is the dark forces. Perhaps many years later, I have no grand or poignant love story to tell, but every time I felt the love, that's enough. About the astounding, sentimental love story, when I had an audience.
I will remember for you through the tears, I will remember you brilliant smiling face. Please forgive me, it's not that I don't want to wait you grew up or change slowly, but I don't want to change, would you like I don't want to give up the simple love, maybe you will also have been reluctant to give up simply make the gods cry of love. After all, our life will be a lot of people love, not everyone is used to go all my life. We accompany each other for a long, leave some memories, leaving some comprehension, that is the whole of the existence and you'll find it.
So, my dear, here, this letter, and our love.
1、最浪漫的情话,是当那个已经跟你分手了的情人打电话来问:“你好吗?”你稀松平常的回答:“我很好。”而其实你还爱着他,你一点也不好。
2、有天当你想起我,时间已摆平所有的错,也学会不再问为什么。直到有一天,面对爱情开始吝啬,会不会怀念当初的炙热?一路上经过各自曲折,直到有一天,选某个人相濡以沫。
3、当看破一切的时候,才知道,原来失去比拥有更踏实。
4、有一个人,教会你怎样去爱了,但是,他却不爱你了。
5、没有他我不会不习惯,因为我从来没有习惯拥有他。
6、我再也不会奋不顾身的去爱一个人了,哪怕是你。
7、我心里一直有你,只是比例变了而已。
8、现在终于到了要分别的时候,他比我先走,我反而觉得有点欣慰。这样的悲伤,迟早会让我们其中一个人单独体会,就让我来承担好了。
9、望着你离开的背影,我告诉自己要坚强,不哭,是因为爱你,更是因为懂你。
10、我赢了所有人,却输掉了你。
1、转弯只为遇见你,却忘记了,你也会转弯。
2、总以为,在最初的地方,有一个最原来的我,就也会有一个最原来的你。
3、你有新欢了,我连旧爱都不是。
4、也许有一天,你回头了,而我却早已不在那个路口。
5、结局和过程都有了,再去纠缠,连自己都觉得贪婪。
6、忘记你,是为了证明我可以忘记你。
7、你突然点醒我,我们相识的时间能够以年计算了,你找到了你爱的,而我,还在原地徘徊着。
8、我们再也不会像以前那样,以彼此为不可替代;我们再也不会像以前那样,那样用力的爱,直到哭了出来。
9、一天,我终于不再思念他,因为他离开太久了,我的习惯已经不再是习惯。
10、我们都这样离散在岁月的风里,回过头去,却看不到曾经在一起的痕迹,尽管,曾今那么用力的在一起过。
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我不知道你会看得到或者看不到我所写的信,只希望你可以还记得我,那个让你曾经真的伤了心的人,多年来,直到我确认我自己已成长及真的懂得珍惜,才知道我所失去的,只有你让我留下永生难以磨灭的内疚,对你有说不出的万分抱歉,很想问候你这些年你过得好吗?虽然我知道你不可能再回到我身边,但我希望
你能有个世界上最好的女人来爱你,我没有什么资格对你说些什么话,我只想告诉你,我很后悔让你离开我,很后悔放弃你,如果你有看到这一段留言,希望你能原谅我,原谅我那时的无知,诚心的告白,只希望你能原谅我,因为我已没有资格向你再施舍什么了.
Baby:
please allow me the last time so call you! When you see this letter I've been on a trip back home because I know I never has no chance to say these two words with you, this is the last letter I wrote to you, at this moment my heart ached, but for the sake of your choice, I still want to write this letter brimming with tears. In you leave me these two days I thought a lot also understand a lot, I find you just want to keep you mean there is no other hope you don't want to wrong, as you said in the monitor our family you I can assure you that there is absolutely no, right now I will never in bother you.
I wish you would give me the last time we have the opportunity to, until the morning, and I said you let me understand the lost love, many people know that the lost love is hard to turn back! But even in together also can't be like before, because I love you, I still choose no longer entwine you, maybe I just a traveler in your life! I hope the afterlife I door will continue to this period of bitter love! Perhaps this love should be sweet, then think about it. Many things are all my own ignorance of mistakes... but I really don't want to break up with you, I know I am a bad temper. Countless times and quarrel with you, in order to little things can be a little absurd, looking back now forget it, all over now everything in the past with the wind. Forget may be a good thing! Hope everyone happy even break up will break up, I know this is easier said than done. It's hard to do! When I think about being with you together happy tears can strike down. Let it gone, lost love heart let time slowly wound it forget perhaps very difficult, but I will learn to slowly try! I hope one day, I really can really learn, instead of sad. Meeting you was fate of traction, leave you may be hit the doomed, perhaps the fate will become more! The past sweet aftertaste now can only use crying instead, everything can only cause destruction in miss yourself!
With all my happiness and hope to be with you is nearly eight months, many others did not experience the pain.. We have learned. Again the injustice of the deepest heart, tears of failure, is a very simple word love to over. Maybe I have to break up to you to say, maybe I don't believe that we have come to an end; But your rude words made me sad, maybe everybody is sad, but I think it's time we say break up to you. Today we finally have the courage to face the regret of the past, I have the courage to face you should be, in addition to regret in the face of such result can only say that I don't know about you. I think with you together of days is happy and happy, is you let me know what call love? How to care about a person, love a person? How to be a good boyfriend? How to make a girlfriend happy? All this is all you taught me, thank you for let me know the many, many I did not know and done before, in my memory, you also once many times said broke up with me, how many times we are through the tears, in retrospect, also many times with you quarrel, I am really sorry you, let you involvement, let every time you are very pain, also let your character became mania and throw things, I know in your eyes I was a child grow up is not mature, because of my ignorance and immaturity for heart and tired.
Maybe I said promise, for you never not achieve them, but for me I have to go to do, but not a commitment to achieve two or three days, after all, the relationship to the future happiness, and may also be because our personality are caused by the impatient, has already passed, however, will not start again from today, because you are tired, tired you should let go, have a word, love you will make you happy, you and I can't find happiness together, only leave you let you find happiness in the heart, this is also one of the biggest cost love, though you find happiness is no longer I, but I still want to bless you, hope you later life happy happy, also wish you good health! If love a person is so silently selfless dedication, whether spiritual or material, all I want, that is why I will change my position, for the sake of your happiness, I will accept, because the reality is cruel, love is selfish!
Damage is inevitable. I am a boy, don't want to liabilities more reluctant to carry debt, so I don't want to see you sacrifice their all stay with me, do you think is in love me, but you forget that I love you too, don't want to see you more sacrifice. Leave only heard silence, in addition to silence to leave you I still have what choice? There is a love called to give up in the world and fall in love with you is a wrong, but I have no regret. It is good to have memories with you my life. I will be happy, so you rest assured, because my life's biggest sorrow is away from you, again sad again difficult?
Take good care of yourself, if you forget me you will happy, so forget me, don't blame you, you always like a child let me love and chi, now that I can't give you happiness, so I have to let go hold your hand, my can let you go looking for happiness... Baby, again say to you that the two profound words, it could also be the last time I have ever told you so, I'm gone...
我怎么称呼你,还是不用称呼了。
今天依然很早就起来,昨晚看书至凌晨,凌晨三点打电话给朋友,握着电话泪流满面。之后蜷缩在床上着看右边的墙壁,一直看上面明暗变化的颜彩从灰黑到深灰,再到银灰,再到银杏,然后是乳白,眼泪落入右边耳朵,装满了耳朵。然后起来打开电脑。我想我应该对你说些什么。
也许你会说我为什么不学聪明点,你的沉默已经说明了某些什么,有些东西不必捅破,这样对大家都好些。然而我无法这样,无法这样无声无息,无法做到若无其事,无法当作什么都没有发生,无法当作从来不曾相识。我没有如此的洒脱,做不到这些,有一个告别,也许能让我的心轻松一点。你说了再见,我就能转身离去,努力去忘记不该记忆的东西。
我一直以为,有些伤痛无法避免,但可以承受。但现在我发现,有些伤痛注定到来而无法承受。我还是低估了你在我心里的分量。我不断安慰自己,或许每晚的失眠可以让我疯狂看书,可以让我不去想那么多事情,然而事实却证明我无法做到,我怎么都阻挡不了眼泪,那么多的眼泪,书上的字一个个融化开来,它们跟我一样泪流满面。尽管我不断告诉自己,该承受的还是要承受。我不断告戒自己,现在当务之急是考试,应该努力看书,可是书里的字和我一样悲伤,一样流泪不止。
我不应该相信爱情的,不该相信所谓的缘分,不该相信动人的话,不该太天真,所做的一切都不应该。两个人要彼此相爱,原来是那么困难,那么复杂的一件事情。曾经我以为我幸运,你给的温柔给的美丽,让我惊喜,让我庆幸,庆幸我有一生的风景,不曾想这原来只是上帝给我的一个玩笑。
爱在现实面前原来是如此脆弱的。其实我早该发现,你所给予我的只是一个完美的幻觉。你所宠爱与溺爱的我,并非真正的我,而是一片虚渺的无人境地。我却明知故犯,一味放纵自己自杀式地投进我的爱情。御石填海,投地无声。这样的动作成为一种反复制约,让我误以为曾体验最逼真的爱情,最逼真的永远。我们的爱情一定是个真实的梦,真实到我不忍触摸。而我到现在都还活在梦境里。
其实我不应该再给你电话,再给你写信的。应该像你一样,云淡风轻。我错在太认真,太容易相信,太天真,太不自量,这是傻瓜的做法。就这样被人嘲笑,嘲笑这样的傻瓜。为什么我就不能控制自己,把一切当作一场游戏,笑笑把他忘记掉?朋友在身边,她不能安慰我,只对我说:“爱得越深伤得越深。”是的,像我这种人是不应该去爱的。
很后悔,三月,为什么给你写那一封信呢?假如没有那封信,我想你我永远是两条不可相交的两条平行线,在各自的生活轨道里快乐。如果没有爱你,现在的我会在哪里,有什么际遇?听见了感伤的歌曲,会不会像现在这样伤心?
昨天下午你再没来电话,你又何必敷衍我?后来和朋友出去,我以为出去散散心回来就可以恢复过来。可是傍晚回家,推开房门眼泪又掉了下来。吃饭的时候一直不敢说话,因为知道一开口便会忍不住泪水。当爸爸妈妈吃完饭离开饭桌,我眼眶里打转的泪水一眨眼就滴落,急忙把头藏在饭碗里,不敢让他们看见,眼泪一颗颗滴进饭里。躲进厨房盛饭,飞快地把眼泪擦干净,然而出来才吃了两口饭,又是满脸的泪水。我怎么这样的没用。
我准备暂时离开深圳,本来说好两人一起的旅行,我想现在我只能独自上路。无法在爸爸妈妈面前装作若无其事,只好选择离开一段时间,没办法面对他们的疑问,没办法面对他们的关心。前天妈妈还对我说,早知你当晚回家,应该叫你进来带点荔枝回去,爸爸去视察又带回来一筐荔枝。还说如果结婚,先别买房子,福田那套房子不出租了给我们住……我已经无法承受这些话,每次忍着泪转身回房间,心痛的感觉排山倒海。曾经的甜蜜成了今天最血淋淋的伤痛。
已经在准备行程,希望时间和另一个城市能让我尽快平复。我想时间长了,大家都会忘记这件事,不会再提起。只是,我自己要用多少时间来遗忘,要用多少时间才不会再心痛。我知道,那将是很长很长的一段时间。旅行回来之后,我想不必再向爸爸妈妈多做解释,他们应该明白发生的事情,然后我要将停顿下来的出国手续重新继续办理,我本简单,我本认为幸福就是很年轻就结婚相夫教子,我本认为这种幸福对我是奢侈,不曾想到遇见你,你给了我一个春天的美丽一个季节的浪漫,让我天真地以为等待已久的爱情终于眷顾,每个坚信爱的人最终能遇上真命天子,我以为我就此可以停止漂泊寻找,就此做个简单的小女人。原来一切只是个笑话,只是个青天白日梦。决定换个生活环境,这一身伤痛,从此再不爱人,不再与人谈及婚嫁。
信箱里的信,这些日子的点点滴滴,每次进入信箱,鼠标掠过它们,还是不忍心删除,更不敢再打开来看,因为看了将会满眼伤痛。我想,等哪天我可以轻松将它们删除,那么说明我已经忘记了,不再想起这些事情。还有手机里你唱的歌,多大的一个讽刺,也该删除了。“K歌之王”,原来一切其实早已有预兆,所有的只是K歌,卡拉OK而已。
与你走过一程,我已享受此生奢侈的幸福甜美。
回忆早已经太多了。
我想,我要谢谢你,谢谢你曾回应我的爱。还要对你说声对不起,我是应该对不起,浪费了你过多的时间精力金钱。因我偏偏是面目可憎之人。
祈望你将来漫长的人生中能拥有一份坚实的幸福。我真的如此盼望。
亲爱的:
这是一封分手信。
不是所有的分手,都是因为爱情的消失或转移。
亲爱的,就在两天前,你又和我提出分手了,只不过是因为你重复了两遍的话我没有听到。
你知道吗?每当你说分手的时候,我在你眼睛中看到的不是对于目前生活的厌倦,更不是希望之光的泯灭,相反,我看到的是渴望,有几次你的眼睛里甚至闪烁着激动而兴奋的光芒。我知道,你在期待我因即将失去你而爆发出来的痛不欲生和歇斯底里,你内心摩拳擦掌地等待着这一刻的到来,好让你相信我是多么爱你。
所以,提出分手,对于你而言,甚至都不是无聊的恶作剧,而是在你我之间会定时上演的爱情大戏,是一场令你无比享受和满足的饕餮盛宴。
亲爱的,我真的累了,对于你无休止的质问与考验,对于你给出的无穷无尽的爱情习题。
每次当我面露难意或疲倦,你就会说我已经不爱你了,或者说我老了,已经爱不动了。
我愿意为你付出一切,但不是以这种方式。
我爱你。但是我们对爱的理解与诉求不同。你崇拜那种激荡的偏执的爱,因此总希望能够将爱走得曲折,走得错综迷离,用一连串惊天动地的故事,用透支生命的消耗与付出,用无与伦比的悲情来证明爱、诠释爱。
可对于我而言,爱不是这样的。爱不是生与死的对决,不是情感与理智的两难题,不是为一个人而放弃生命中其它一切可贵之物的勇气。爱,只是一个简单的念头,是想和一个人在一起,是分开数日后的一点惦记,是想起彼此时心头淡淡的香气,仅此而已。
是的,爱情应该是一种加法,应该因为它的到来给万事万物带来光彩,而不应该为它剥夺掉生活中其余部分存在的权利。爱,应该是仁慈的,宽厚的,吉祥的。而不该是苛刻的,霸道的,晦气的。
举一个小例子。和我在一起的时候,你总要和我做些什么,一起看电影,或者一起玩游戏,如果我想一个人做点事,你就会不开心。可我却觉得,爱,不是让对方成为自己生命中无时不刻的主角,相反,是让对方成为自己生命中不可或缺的背景——不是一起做什么,而是只要有你在,我就可以安心地去做任何事。
我认为的爱情,是轻盈的,透明的,简单的。
而你认为的爱情,是沉重的,晦涩的,复杂的。
我从来没想过考验你,因为我信任你,更因为我认为爱情是平凡之物,即使你犯了错,或者在某些时刻对我的爱降了温,我也可以接受。因为我愿意谅解爱的不完美。
可你却时刻警惕,甚至设置人工障碍来考验我,有时我会觉得你爱慕爱情超越了爱我,你只不过想把我提炼成一段完美的爱情故事。
亲爱的,对不起,在你提过了多次分手后,这一次轮到我提出分手了。我并不是赌气,更不是报复。只不过我的爱情观是极简主义,与你的极致主义实在不相匹配。我也不是老了,更不是爱不动了,其实我比你更渴望爱,所以我更需要像甘泉那样清澈透明的爱情来迅速滋润我的喉咙和心田,而你,需要的是果汁,需要那种甜腻的、绚丽的饮品来装点你的生活,只可惜,果汁对于我来说,已经不够解渴了。
亲爱的,我想要平淡的爱情,不需要时刻掏心掏肺,泪眼婆娑。也许有的爱情如暴风雨,有的爱情如绵绵细雨,如果只能选择一种的话,我情愿选择后者,因为暴风雨会摧毁万物,一场暴风雨过后,一切都会消失殆尽。而细雨能够润万物于无声,这才是最深沉的力量。也许多年后,我没有或宏大或凄美的爱情故事可以讲,但是我每时每刻都感受到了爱,这就够了。关于那些惊天动地、风花雪月的爱情故事,我当一个听众就好了。
我会记住我为你流过的眼泪,也会记住你灿烂的笑脸。请原谅我,并不是我不愿意等你慢慢长大或改变,而是我不想将你改变,就像我不愿意放弃简单的爱情一样,也许你也会一直不愿意放弃惊天地泣鬼神的爱情吧。毕竟,我们的一生都会爱许多人,并不是每个人都是用来走完这一辈子的。我们相互陪伴走了一段,留下了一些回忆,留下了一些感悟,这就是它会存在与发生的全部道理。
那么,亲爱的,就到这里吧,这封信,以及我们的爱情。
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你发烧的前天我打电话让你盖好,记得吧?那会我刚从医院回来,难受得我在床上翻了N此,去三院检查说我肠子里有个不明细胞,除了我都很担心!如果死了你就永远记住我了!今天撕得那个本上写了这事。那天我自己在KFC店,在我们的位置上写的!那天我买了“天下无贼”的电影票。看你发烧也没有告你!扔了!!!就那么简单40块钱就没啦!嗬嗬!(冷笑)
我的病你不用担心了。死活与你无关!放长假我就得全面检查了!因为那天检查结果竟然有三个“+”号,医生说很严重!真希望是绝症!反正我也多余!倒是你,经常感冒,要注意身体!感冒药要随时备好!看我,听得瑟吧!我也有同感!
平时上上网,看看电视,打打球之类都很好。当然怎么做是你的事!与我无关!我更无权干涉!你高兴就好!随便吧!
天冷了,穿厚点!ok?说不定什么时候下雪呢!以前还说要下第一场雪的时候一起玩呢!也许不可能了吧!那你玩好吧!不知哪个女生有那个福气了!
对于我们的感情我尽力了,我不后悔!我不怨谁!像我说过的,我想我们是注定的!我没有权利把责任推给别人!怪只怪我没有让你爱上我的能力!