Dear John,
I have been seriously looking back upon our relationship and getting very clear on what I need and desire out of a relationship.
The conclusion I have come to is that we are too different in both our personality and our desired lifestyles to be able to successfully live together with joy, bliss, good communication, and interaction.
This is not about you or about me "winning or losing", or about one of us being wrong -- it is about two ways of being... which do not fulfill each other, or go together. Though I had been open to having you visit with the thought that possibly we could 'try' again, after thinking about it a lot, I realize that it is not a good idea. I am very clear that we are not the 'right' people for each other at this time in our lives.
Please forgive yourself, and me, for any 'mistakes' we made along the way... and remember that we both have grown immensely through being together... but the time has come to move on.
So basically what I am saying is that I would like to 'cancel' my invitation for you to visit. I feel at this time, that I need to move on with my life, and having you come and visit would not serve any positive purpose. You need to accept that this relationship is over and open yourself up to receiving the blessings of the universe...
I think we both need to let go of the past, be grateful for what we had for a time, learn from our experiences, and move on from there.
Dearest John, we have been through a lot together... I have a learned a lot about myself, as you have learnt a lot about yourself. At this point, we are both ready to graduate to the next level in a relationship...What we have learned, whether while we were together, or whether after, through looking back on how we 'operated' together, will serve us in our future relationships.
It has been my experience, that all relationships that end are simply opening the door to another level of joy, and a better relationship built on what we have learnt in the past. So I know and trust that there is someone out there who will support you in your growth while loving you exactly the way you are... which is something that we were not doing for each other. I constantly judged and criticized you, in the same manner that you judged and criticized me... Out there is the perfect person for you that will love you and not find a single thing to criticize about you in the same way that you will not find a single thing to criticize about them... You will accept her as she is, even while seeing that she is not "perfect".
Do not see this as losing something, but rather as having gained knowledge and wisdom... Everything that you learned from us being together, as well as from us being separated, you will be able to put in practice in your next relationship to avoid the traps that we got into.
EVERYTHING ALWAYS WORKS OUT FOR THE BEST, and this is no exception. Trust in yourself, trust in the Universe, trust in the power of Love that rules our lives. Please don’t get into feeling sorry for yourself and wanting to 'end it all'. Rather, thank God for the learning experience, and ask for the openness to recognize the blessings in your life. They are there... open yourself up to being you, accepting yourself completely without judgment, and loving yourself unconditionally.
I wish you joy, I wish you happiness, I wish you heaven on earth. Please trust in yourself and the Universe enough to take some deep breaths, and start looking to find and create joy in your life. It is there... simply step out and claim it.
Blessings to you... Be the light!
‘love means that you care for another person’s happiness more than your own,no matter how choices you face might be.’’ ‘i wanted them to be happy,i wanted her to be happy.”these sentence are impress me a lot,it is john who showed me what is true love. john lives in a single parent
home.in his childhood,he is a mistaken boy who don’t know what is true love.after graduated from high school,he is no longer continued to go to university.he smoke,cut classes,fought,and drunk in the bar.in a word,he did lots of bad things.then he changed many works,and girlfriends,but no one fits him.then he joined the army.and he got changed.he got tattoos.he began to read,surfing in the sea is his hobby.because of this hobby,he met the most important girl who is named savannah.they fell in love quickly.but for me,it is not quickly.because after i read more than thirty pages, they finally get together.but they had only two weeks good time.because john had to back to the army.john promised that he would be released from military
each other everyday.savannah said that she always fell asleep with worries.as retiring approached,the war was exploded.john had to back to the army.i can’t imagine how disappointed they felt in that time.i know we can write and talk on the phone now and then.and we could see each able to see your silly expressions.we won’t be able to lie on the beach together and stare at stars.we won’t be able to sit across from each other and talk and share secrets.and i won’t feel your arm around me,like i do now.’’time and distant can change something.sometime,love is leaving.the september 11th happened.it is army’s duty to sacrifice themselves.happiness was approaching.but unhappiness ran faster than happiness.what they expected thing lost.if i were john,i would stayed at army too.and i believed that true love can afford to wait.but as a girl,i think there is nothing wrong with savannah .the old saying is woman can not afford to wait.’’peaceful life is savannah’s dream.so she chose to tim who is a warm man always behind her.i’m admire his kindness and his love to savannah.he was not ask anything about what happened when savannah was in an indecent man’s bed.at savannah’s most difficult time,tim is the only person that savannah can rely.tim didn’t say anything just fetch savannah to her home.so in that time i think savannah’s chosen is right. the most dramatic thing is that tim was ill.john had never changed his love to savannah. when john’s father dead.john went to drop in savannah.he wanted to know how is savannah’ s life going?the most touching moment was they stare at each other .lots of things invaded their heart.as a sentence said ‘i designed lots of ways to meet you.but this is the only way i didn’t imagined.’’john said if i were you i would wait.’’but it is too late.at that moment,i didn’t say who didn’t catch
the true love.it’s fate that sent savannah away from john. ‘watching her i felt a sudden pain in my throat.not because she was married to tim,and not at the thought of seeing them both tomorrow.it came from watching savannah as i was driving away.standing on her porch,crying into her hands.’’i believe that they still love each other in that time.but as time went by,they can’t each other.the most simple greeting ‘hey,john ?’’ yeah?’’we can’t imagine what they were thinking after long time no see. he sold his father’s coins and send money to tim.the coins are invaluable,and it was the only thing john’s father left for him.john is such a poor guy.from john i can see how powerful love it is.love is not only own,but also make her happy.i think savannah is fortunately.she has two men love her deeply.but she is also unfortunately .it’s hard for her to chose.love is like gambling.woman would devote all their life to her husband.somebody in your life is just take a lesson to you,then they left.so we should thanks all the people in our life whatever they brought to us.maybe savannah is just a passer-by in john’s life.in our daily life,we meet many many kinds of people.someone bring happiness to us and someone bring sadness to us.we should know thank all of them.without the help of savannah’s help,misunderstanding to his can’t change.i think the true lover needn’t together with each other all the time.sometime leave is love.if john didn’t sent money to tim,he can wait forhim dead.then he would get savannah.but he didn’t do that.i i think in university,true love is inspire each other to be better.not talk on the phone all the time.not go to see a movie or go to shopping.we should improve our ability and learn more knowledge.actually,i can’t say if i were john or if i were savannah what i will do.because everyone has their own thoughts.but be a person who know what is love is important.and be a kind person.thanks to all the people in our life whatever pain or happiness they brought to us.
Dear John,
I have been seriously looking back upon our relationship and getting very clear on what I need and desire out of a relationship.
The conclusion I have come to is that we are too different in both our personality and our desired lifestyles to be able to successfully live together with joy, bliss, good communication, and interaction.
This is not about you or about me "winning or losing", or about one of us being wrong -- it is about two ways of being... which do not fulfill each other, or go together. Though I had been open to having you visit with the thought that possibly we could 'try' again, after thinking about it a lot, I realize that it is not a good idea. I am very clear that we are not the 'right' people for each other at this time in our lives.
Please forgive yourself, and me, for any 'mistakes' we made along the way... and remember that we both have grown immensely through being together... but the time has come to move on.
So basically what I am saying is that I would like to 'cancel' my invitation for you to visit. I feel at this time, that I need to move on with my life, and having you come and visit would not serve any positive purpose. You need to accept that this relationship is over and open yourself up to receiving the blessings of the universe...